As difficult as it may be, the most helpful option would be to confide in someone you trust — a pastor, a close friend, a counselor, or a mentor. Of course, these myths now sound absurd. Rob Toornstra has pastored a church in Salem Oregon for the past ten years. Masturbation can also become addictive. There may be several ways in which it can, assuming that if you are married you are hiding nothing from your spouse. Of course, this means that, like married people, you need to be careful to avoid lust that can be a part of masturbation.
He is the author of Unclean: The fight against masturbation can be a lesson in controlling the body which can have great spiritual benefits. It is for these purposes that God draws couples together as sexual beings created for one another in love. She has a book on spirituality and the body coming out with InterVarsity Press in
Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. The friction of using your own hand or some other aid to achieve masturbation may also condition you to that level of stimulation. The act of masturbation falls squarely into this gray category. I married, and sex was horrible from the wedding night on into the next almost three decades. A single woman in her 20s who is discovering her body and her desires might be approaching masturbation as a celebration of sexuality and the gift of her body and desires; she could equally begin using masturbation as a place to take her sorrows, longings, and insecurities.
If you masturbate, but you cannot tell your spouse, or if there are aspects of masturbation that you keep hidden, then masturbation is hurting yourself, and your spouse. A means of stress relief? As difficult as it may be, the most helpful option would be to confide in someone you trust — a pastor, a close friend, a counselor, or a mentor. Suppose you find that you are able to masturbate occasionally without falling into the trap of lust, and suppose that, if you are married, you enjoy a healthy sex life with your spouse. Can masturbation serve a helpful purpose? There may be several ways in which it can, assuming that if you are married you are hiding nothing from your spouse. Thus, to borrow again from Paul, masturbation may in some cases be permissible, but not necessarily beneficial.